How to develop potential

by Christian Kurmann

Because of the complexity and fast pace of today’s world, we must re-think the way we look at business, society and even friend and family relationships. We must ask ourselves how we have lived and worked previously.  We must ask ourselves what the better way to live and work going into the future will be. We must challenge ourselves to be open to a complete ‘re-think’.



The human brain is incredibly formable and modifiable – more than we ever thought possible. This means there is a much larger potential than we anticipated to face up to and then change the way we were educated or simply how we were brought up. Today we know, through numerous biological, bio-neuro-scientific and anthropological research studies, that we cannot deploy such potential on our own. We need other people – communities, teams, organisations or society – to assist us as we evolve.

It has been discovered that all the knowledge, the experiences, and the intelligence we ever discovered or were taught, showed, explained or had shared with us, is a profound matter collected from when we cooperate with others.  This means, we would not even be able to talk or think if we were to ever depend solely on ourselves. We need others. We rely on others. It is what human beings are. Yes, our individuality is what makes us truly unique. And this ‘uniqueness’ that makes us so different, while being absolutely particular, is formed from a conglomeration of all that has been copied, borrowed and acquired from others: from our upbringing; and from third parties such as through our basic education, literature, philosophy, the arts, expertise, intelligence or the intellect from others.

That is why it is of critical importance to re-instate our own bonding and consciousness to achieve personal meaning and significance, so that we no longer carry on as mindless followers but rather eradicate our dependency on third party knowledge.

Nevertheless, it is crucially important to fully understand that if we are totally isolated and individualistic, we cannot actually exist. In other words, without others we are nothing and useless and unable to survive, even though, ironically, we experiment with ways to become more and more individualistic. We only operate our potential at its highest when we cooperate with others. It is that level of bonding that gives us meaning, which unfortunately today has become increasingly superficial and artificial. That is why the individual human being can’t exist nor operate nor comprehend problems nor generate solutions on his own: we can only flourish and be nourished within social relationship defined by cooperation and inclusiveness. All in all, we are connected through many kinds of systems: human, wildlife and ecology, as well as consciousness and the subconscious.
Still, many of us experience feelings of being separated and disconnected. We tend to live an individualistic life, formed mainly by our upbringing: where and when and under what circumstances we were raised, whether some were evolving within an indigenous, remote and secluded habitat or within an industrialised environment or surrounded by social, political, cultural or economic misery. All of this provides significant indications of how we were raised and what we were taught and trained to use our potential, why some of us enrich ourselves entirely through others and cultivate this as a common normality.  Hence, much of our shaping comes from our environment: how we feel safe, secure, inspired, calm and eventually serene; how we protect ourselves; how we behave toward others who are not part of our circle of belonging, those who are different in terms of race, ethnicity, language, nationality, society, community, village, organisation, family or friendships.

It is socialisation that eventually dictates to us how we cultivate our own integration: in our social system; during what period of time and which country we were raised; and under what social, economic and political stability (or instability) we lived. More and more people are opening, comprehending that which the latest science of consciousness has explored, understanding that everything is energy and vibrations. Today acclaimed physicians acknowledge that tangible matter does not exist, because it is out of measurability. This means the intellect is the impulsive force, in fact is the real breakthrough of matter, not materialistic but intangible and more open.  

Because we do not understand, we often don’t accept it exists. But this is a very limited, very restricted way of looking at life and matter. This would mean we ignore or abolish love, joy, imagination, creativity, anger, fear and anxiety – simply because we do not always understand these concepts.

Still, many people around the world do not want to accept nor understand that such social transformation will be needed in order to lead a meaningful, healthy life. This requires a serious ‘re-think’ and the strong willingness to ‘let go’. Many fail to associate with this because it is not tangible. But the truth of the matter is that we are intentionally confronted with new things, new trends, new ideas that are “en vogue”. So naturally we lose the sense of connection to comprehend ‘what is’.

Often, we forfeit exploring, discovering, striving to better comprehend. We are overwhelmed with the many choices and ideas we are confronted with, whether with diversity of products and services or the needs and wants we seek. Things quickly come and go and vanish, with something new already on the horizon. Not surprisingly, we lose the feelings of context and coherence and give up looking for solutions, give up trying to comprehend, because we are simply too overwhelmed with the complexity of ‘life’.

At the beginning there is energy, when structures were being built. So perhaps we need to ask ourselves, what is the sort of ‘matter’ that keeps everything together in our mind? Through research, it has been discovered that all living beings organise themselves so that their mental structure keeps them together with minimum level of energy. In other words, the brain is a lively organ that works to maintain its structure to survive, without expending too much energy. The more energy we use in our brain, the more we suffer and the more we lack concentration, clarity, critical thinking, problem-solving skills and even imagination.

This means the most desirable activity of the brain is not thinking, it is to contemplate peacefully, and to render a calm state. This is the best state for feeling safe and secure and serene, for being inspired.


Level of Brain Waves


14 – 20
7 – 14
4 – 7
0 – 4

Highest Consciousness
Highest Imagination
Highest Memories
Highest Psychosocial-,
Mental & Physical Healing


When our brain waves are between 14-20 per second, we are at ‘Beta Level’ where our neurons are firing up to keep our attentiveness, concentration and awareness high and clear. This indicates our highest level of consciousness. Whereas, when we slow down to relax, to visualise, to be in a state of creativity and imagination and receive best inputs and ideas, our brain waves are between 7-14 Alpha Level. These are waves of a meditative state, where intuition, empathy and self-awareness are nourished and evolving.

Our memories, emotions and impulses are housed where are brain waves are between 4-7 waves per second Delta Level. Theta brain waves are measured between 0-4 waves per second. This is where we are in deep sleep, a state where physical, mental and psychosocial healing takes place in an almost a detached awareness. So, when we capture a lot of thoughts, this is when we are stressed the most – the more we are relaxed and the fewer brain waves we have per second, the fewer thoughts we have until we are in deep calmness or a meditative state where we have no thoughts at all, but are infused with emotions, feelings, impulses and images.

When we want to evolve our potential, it is critically important that we are at either the Alpha or Theta state. This is where we comprehend best what we need and how we achieve it. This is also where we nourish our critical thinking. Attaining this state, however, requires us to get out of our day-to-day environment and spend time in nature or in some geographically different location where we are best inspired, feeling safe and secure.

This will change how we feel and eventually how we visualise our meaning, what makes sense and what gives purpose to our lives. This ultimately is the gateway for diving into a much deeper level, where we feel safe, secure and calm. In other words, the more and the deeper we stay in the Alpha state, the more we can access Theta and Delta levels that take us beyond thinking, to a state in which we re-programme our unconscious mind. This means the unconscious mind is influenced by emotions, impulses, pictures, images, shapes and forms.

We have so much potential, but because we often feel insecure, we limit ourselves. That is why it is critically important to gradually drop into the subconscious mind, cultivating calmness or creating quiet moments each and every day. At the end of the day, this is what makes us ‘unique’ and truly ‘ourselves’ with all our unique abilities, skills, talents and attitudes, although this requires lots of energy. But if we integrate and bond well with our closest community (family, friends, teams, organisations or society) we realise our potential, how well we can succeed, how we can contribute in the world. This fulfils us. So, it is critically important that we learn how to trust ourselves, so we can trust others and empower them to integrate their abilities, skills and talents. This is exceedingly satisfying and generates social well-being and high levels of contentment.

There are list of 19 essential and nonverbal skills that I consider essential which can be learned and passed on from one person to another. These skills govern the raising of a child, forming of a community, persuasion of a sales call, the calming of a rage, the avoidance of violence, the recovery from trauma, the effectiveness of counselling, the capacity for empathy, the strength of a bond, the ability to focus and learn within the educational environment, inspiration at work or simply enjoying soothing moments, blending families, recovering from addictions and making up after something goes wrong.

We like the people with these bonding skills and generally avoid people who lack them. Sensitive people can even identify what these bonding skills really are, because the skills are largely nonverbal. Even fewer people can detect which skills are missing and then systematically retrain these bonding skills.

But today, to the contrary, we rather follow our own individual objectives, chasing a desire to gain recognition and accolades which we believe, falsely, will make us content. This ‘thrill’, though, lasts only for a short period. But the lure of this thrill, however short, is why we have accepted harsh and rigid conditions and don’t mind working and living in a complex and high-paced environment so that we can prove how much stronger and more qualified we are. We keep seeking for ourselves only.

That is one of the reasons why it is unthinkable for many not to compare, not to seek and not to strive and not to continue over-analysing, because everyone would struggle. That is why most prefer to keep doing what they do, to protect what they have and continue looking out for number #1 – themselves.
We force our brain day-by-day to arrange itself so that we can manage our daily life and work –  even if it means we are running at our highest limits, our maximum brain wave capacity.

So we need to acknowledge how important it is to limit the energies the brain uses, to avoid getting stressed, egocentric, narcissistic, selfish and self-centred, as such a state required tremendous energies. Bonding and togetherness can only occur when people explore and discover and experience what it feels like to bond peacefully. This is the only state in which we can nourish new experiences, new knowledge, new skills and new abilities.

We lead lives with different organisational and social systems, of different backgrounds, different talents and different skills, as well as different understandings and different values. So, let’s look in the same direction, introducing organisational and social development based on inclusiveness, participation, coordination, empowerment and contribution. This is where potential is nourished.


Edvinas Grisinas